Do you often feel lonely and sad? Do you long for romance and are willing to do whatever it takes to meet that special person? Speaking another language could revolutionize your love life! So, why wait? Learning how to say ‘love’ in Indonesian could be just what you need to find it.
Or perhaps you were lucky, and have found your Indonesian partner already. Fantastic! Yet, a cross-cultural relationship comes with unique challenges. Learning how to speak your lover’s language will greatly improve your communication and enhance the relationship. At IndonesianPod101, our team will teach you all the words, quotes and phrases you need to woo your Indonesian lover with excellence! Our tutors provide personal assistance, with plenty of extra material available to make Indonesian dating easy for you.
Table of Contents
- Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
- The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
- Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
- Indonesian Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
- Indonesian Quotes about Love
- Marriage Proposal Lines
- 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
- Will Falling in Love Help You Learn Indonesian Faster?
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1. Common Phrases You’ll Need for a Date
So, you have met your Indonesian love interest. Congratulations! Who knows where this could take you…?! However, the two of you have just met and you’re not ready to say the Indonesian word for love just yet. Great, it is better to get to know him/her first. Wow your prospective love by using these Indonesian date phrases to set up a spectacular first date.
Would you like to go out to dinner with me?
- Apakah kamu mau pergi makan malam dengan saya?
The important question! In most cultures, this phrase indicates: ‘I’m romantically interested in you’. Flirting in Indonesian is no different, so don’t take your date to Mcdonald’s!
Are you free this weekend?
- Apakah kamu ada acara akhir pekan ini?
This is a preamble to asking your love interest on a date. If you get an immediate ‘Yes’, that’s good news!
Would you like to hang out with me?
- Apakah kamu mau bergaul dengan saya?
You like her/him, but you’re not sure if there’s chemistry. Ask them to hang out first to see if a dinner date is next.
What time shall we meet tomorrow?
- Jam berapa kita harus bertemu besok?
Set a time, and be sure to arrive early! Nothing spoils a potential relationship more than a tardy date.
Where shall we meet?
- Di mana kita harus bertemu?
You can ask this, but also suggest a place.
You look great.
- Kamu kelihatan keren.
A wonderful ice breaker! This phrase will help them relax a bit – they probably took great care to look their best just for you.
You are so cute.
- Kamu sangat lucu.
If the two of you are getting on really well, this is a fun, flirtatious phrase to use.
What do you think of this place?
- Apa pendapat kamu tentang tempat ini?
This another good conversation starter. Show off your Indonesian language skills!
Can I see you again?
- Bolehkah saya bertemu dengamu lagi?
So the date went really well – don’t waste time! Make sure you will see each other again.
Shall we go somewhere else?
- Haruskah kita pergi ke tempat yang lain?
If the place you meet at is not great, you can suggest going elsewhere. It is also a good question to follow the previous one. Variety is the spice of life!
I know a good place.
- Aku tahu tempat yang bagus.
Use this with the previous question. However, don’t say if you don’t know a good place!
I will drive you home.
- Aku akan mengantarmu pulang.
If your date doesn’t have transport, this is a polite, considerate offer. However, don’t be offended if she/he turns you down on the first date. Especially a woman might not feel comfortable letting you drive her home when the two of you are still basically strangers.
That was a great evening.
- Malam yang sangat menyenangkan.
This is a good phrase to end the evening with.
When can I see you again?
- Kapan aku bisa bertemu denganmu lagi?
If he/she replied ‘Yes’ to ‘Can I see you again?’, this is the next important question.
I’ll call you.
- Aku akan meneleponmu.
Say this only if you really mean to do it. In many cultures, this could imply that you’re keeping the proverbial backdoor open.
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2. The Most Romantic Ideas for a Date
You learned all the Indonesian phrases to make a date – congratulations! Now you have to decide where to meet, which can be tricky. Discuss these options with your lover to gauge whether you like the same things. Check out romantic date ideas in Indonesian below!
museum
- museum
If you’re looking for unique date ideas that are fun but won’t break the bank, museums are the perfect spot! You won’t be running out of things to say in the conversations.
candlelit dinner
- makan malam candle lit
A candlelit dinner is perhaps best to reserve for when the relationship is getting serious. It’s very intimate, and says: “Romance!” It’s a fantastic choice if you’re sure you and your date are in love with each other!
go to the zoo
- pergi ke kebun binatang
This is a good choice for shy lovers who want to get the conversation going. Just make sure your date likes zoos, as some people dislike them. Maybe not for the first date, but this is also a great choice if your lover has children – you’ll win his/her adoration for inviting them along!
go for a long walk
- pergi untuk berjalan-jalan
Need to talk about serious stuff, or just want to relax with your date? Walking together is soothing, and a habit you can keep up together always! Just make sure it’s a beautiful walk that’s not too strenuous.
go to the opera
- pergi ke opera
This type of date should only be attempted if both of you love the opera. It can be a special treat, followed by a candlelit dinner!
go to the aquarium
- pergi ke akuarium
Going to the aquarium is another good idea if you need topics for conversation, or if you need to impress your lover’s kids! Make sure your date doesn’t have a problem with aquariums.
walk on the beach
- berjalan di pantai
This can be a very romantic stroll, especially at night! The sea is often associated with romance and beauty.
have a picnic
- berpiknik
If you and your date need to get more comfortable together, this can be a fantastic date. Spending time in nature is soothing and calms the nerves.
cook a meal together
- memasak makanan bersama-sama
If you want to get an idea of your date’s true character in one go, this is an excellent date! You will quickly see if the two of you can work together in a confined space. If it works, it will be fantastic for the relationship and create a sense of intimacy. If not, you will probably part ways!
have dinner and see a movie
- makan malam dan nonton bioskop
This is traditional date choice works perfectly well. Just make sure you and your date like the same kind of movies!
3. Must-know Valentine’s Day Vocabulary
Expressing your feelings honestly is very important in any relationship all year round. Yet, on Valentine’s Day you really want to shine. Impress your lover this Valentine’s with your excellent vocabulary, and make his/her day! We teach you, in fun, effective ways, the meanings of the words and how to pronounce them. You can also copy the characters and learn how to write ‘I love you’ in Indonesian – think how impressed your date will be!
4. Indonesian Love Phrases for Valentine’s Day
So, you now have the basic Valentine’s Day vocabulary under your belt. Well done! But, do you know how to say ‘I love you’ in Indonesian yet? Or perhaps you are still only friends. So, do you know how to say ‘I like you’ or ‘I have a crush on you’ in Indonesian? No? Don’t worry, here are all the love phrases you need to bowl over your Indonesian love on this special day!
I love you.
- Aku cinta kamu.
Saying ‘I love you’ in Indonesian carries the same weight as in all languages. Use this only if you’re sure and sincere about your feelings for your partner/friend.
You mean so much to me.
- Kamu sangat berarti bagi saya.
This is a beautiful expression of gratitude that will enhance any relationship! It makes the receiver feel appreciated and their efforts recognized.
You’re so beautiful.
- Kamu sangat cantik.
If you don’t know how to say ‘You’re pretty’ in Indonesian, this is a good substitute, gentlemen!
I think of you as more than a friend.
- Saya menganggap kamu lebih dari sekedar teman.
Say this if you are not yet sure that your romantic feelings are reciprocated. It is also a safe go-to if you’re unsure about the Indonesian dating culture.
A hundred hearts would be too few to carry all my love for you.
- Seratus hati akan terlalu sedikit untuk memuat semua cinta saya untuk kamu.
You romantic you…! When your heart overflows with love, this would be the best phrase to use.
Love is just love. It can never be explained.
- Cinta adalah cinta. Hal itu tidak pernah bisa dijelaskan.
If you fell in love unexpectedly or inexplicably, this one’s for you.
You’re so handsome.
- Kamu sangat tampan.
Ladies, this phrase lets your Indonesian love know how much you appreciate his looks! Don’t be shy to use it; men like compliments too.
I’ve got a crush on you.
- Aku naksir dengan kamu.
If you like someone, but you’re unsure about starting a relationship, it would be prudent to say this. It simply means that you like someone very, very much and think they’re amazing.
You make me want to be a better man.
- Kamu membuat saya ingin menjadi pria yang lebih baik.
Gentlemen, don’t claim this phrase as your own! It hails from the movie ‘As Good as it Gets’, but it is sure to make your Indonesian girlfriend feel very special. Let her know that she inspires you!
Let all that you do be done in love.
- Biarkan semua yang kamu lakukan, dilakukan dalam cinta kasih.
We hope.
You are my sunshine, my love.
- Kamu adalah sinar matahari saya, sayang.
A compliment that lets your lover know they bring a special quality to your life. Really nice!
Words can’t describe my love for you.
- Kata-kata tidak dapat menjelaskan cintaku padamu.
Better say this when you’re feeling serious about the relationship! It means that your feelings are very intense.
We were meant to be together.
- Kita ditakdirkan untuk bersama.
This is a loving affirmation that shows you see a future together, and that you feel a special bond with your partner.
If you were thinking about someone while reading this, you’re definitely in love.
- Bila kamu berpikir tentang seseorang saat membaca ini, kamu pasti sedang jatuh cinta.
Here’s something fun to tease your lover with. And hope he/she was thinking of you!
Will you be my Valentine?
- Apakah Anda mau melewatkan hari Valentine bersama saya?
With these words, you are taking your relationship to the next level! Or, if you have been a couple for a while, it shows that you still feel the romance. So, go for it!
5. Indonesian Quotes about Love
You’re a love champ! You and your Indonesian lover are getting along fantastically, your dates are awesome, your Valentine’s Day together was spectacular, and you’re very much in love. Good for you! Here are some beautiful phrases of endearment in Indonesian that will remind him/her who is in your thoughts all the time.
6. Marriage Proposal Lines
Wow. Your Indonesian lover is indeed the love of your life – congratulations! And may only happiness follow the two of you! In most traditions, the man asks the woman to marry; this is also the Indonesian custom. Here are a few sincere and romantic lines that will help you to ask your lady-love for her hand in marriage.
7. 15 Most Common Break-Up Lines
Instead of moving towards marriage or a long-term relationship, you find that the spark is not there for you. That is a pity! But even though breaking up is never easy, continuing a bad or unfulfilling relationship would be even harder. Remember to be kind to the person you are going to say goodbye to; respect and sensitivity cost nothing. Here are some phrases to help you break up gently.
- Kita perlu berbicara.
This is not really a break-up line, but it is a good conversation opener with a serious tone.
I’m just not ready for this kind of relationship.
- Saya hanya belum siap untuk hubungan semacam ini.
Things moved a bit fast and got too intense, too soon? Painful as it is, honesty is often the best way to break up with somebody.
Let’s just be friends.
- Mari kita berteman saja.
If the relationship was very intense, and you have sent many ‘i love u’ texts in Indonesian, this would not be a good breakup line. Feelings need to calm down before you can be friends, if ever. If the relationship has not really developed yet, a friendship would be possible.
I think we need a break.
- Saya rasa kita perlu istirahat.
This is again honest, and to the point. No need to play with someone’s emotions by not letting them know how you feel. However, this could imply that you may fall in love with him/her again after a period of time, so use with discretion.
You deserve better.
- Kamu layak mendapatkan yang lebih baik.
Yes, he/she probably deserves a better relationship if your own feelings have cooled down.
I need my space.
- Saya butuh ruangan.
When a person is too clingy or demanding, this would be an suitable break-up phrase. It is another good go-to for that lover who doesn’t get the message!
I think we’re moving too fast.
- Saya rasa kita terlalu terburu-buru.
Say this if you want to keep the relationship, but need to slow down its progress a bit. It is also good if you feel things are getting too intense for your liking. However, it is not really a break-up line, so be careful not to mislead.
I need to focus on my career.
- Saya butuh fokus dengan karier saya.
If you feel that you will not be able to give 100% in a relationship due to career demands, this is the phrase to use. It’s also good if you are unwilling to give up your career for a relationship.
I’m not good enough for you.
- Saya tidak cukup baik untuk kamu.
Say this only if you really believe it, or you’ll end up sounding false. Break-ups are usually hard for the receiving party, so don’t insult him/her with an insincere comment.
I just don’t love you anymore.
- Saya tidak mencintaimu lagi.
This harsh line is sometimes the best one to use if you are struggling to get through to a stubborn, clingy lover who won’t accept your break up. Use it as a last resort. Then switch your phone off and block their emails!
We’re just not right for each other.
- Kita hanya saling tidak cocok.
If this is how you truly feel, you need to say it. Be kind, gentle and polite.
It’s for the best.
- Ini untuk yang terbaik.
This phrase is called for if circumstances are difficult and the relationship is not progressing well. Love should enhance one’s life, not burden it!
We’ve grown apart.
- Kita semakin berpisah.
Cross-cultural relationships are often long-distance ones, and it is easy to grow apart over time.
We should start seeing other people.
- Kita harus mulai mencari orang lain.
This is probably the least gentle break-up phrase, so reserve it for a lover that doesn’t get the message!
It’s not you. It’s me.
- Bukan karena kamu. Tetapi saya.
As long as you mean it, this can be a kind thing to say. It means that there’s nothing wrong with your Indonesian lover as a person, but that you need something different from a relationship.
8. Will Falling in Love help you Learn Indonesian faster?
Most people will agree that the above statement is a no-brainer – of course it will! Your body will be flooded with feel-good hormones, which are superb motivators for anything. IndonesianPod101 is one of the best portals to help help make this a reality, so don’t hesitate to enroll now! Let’s quickly look at the reasons why falling in love will speed up your learning of the Indonesian language.
Three Reasons Why Having a Lover will Help you Learn Indonesian Faster!
1- Being in a love relationship with your Indonesian speaking partner will immerse you in the culture
IndonesianPod101 uses immersive methods and tools to teach you Indonesian, but having a relationship with a native speaker will be a very valuable addition to your learning experience! You will gain exposure to their world, realtime and vividly, which will make the language come alive even more for you. The experience is likely to expand your world-view, which should motivate you to learn Indonesian even faster.
2- Having your Indonesian romantic partner will mean more opportunity to practice speaking
Nothing beats continuous practice when learning a new language. Your partner will probably be very willing to assist you in this, as your enhanced Indonesian language skills will enhance the relationship. Communication is, after all, one of the most important pillars of a good partnership. Also, you will get to impress your lover with the knowledge gained through your studies – a win/win situation!
3- A supportive Indonesian lover is likely to make a gentle, patient teacher and study aid!
With his/her heart filled with love and goodwill for you, your Indonesian partner is likely to patiently and gently correct your mistakes when you speak. This goes not only for grammar, but also for accent and meaning. With his/her help, you could sound like a native in no time!
Three Reasons Why IndonesianPod101 helps you learn Indonesian Even Faster when you’re In Love
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1- All the Resources and Materials Will Help Both of You
Falling in love with a man or woman speaking Indonesian is an opportunity for both of you to learn a new language! For this reason, every lesson, transcript, vocabulary list, and resource at IndonesianPod101 is translated into both English and Indonesian. So, while your partner can help you learn Indonesian faster, you can potentially also help him/her learn and master English!
2- Lessons Are Designed to Help You Understand and Engage with Indonesian Culture
At IndonesianPod101, our focus is to help our students learn practical vocabulary and phrases used by everyday people in Indonesia. This means that, from your very first lesson, you can apply what you learn immediately! So, when your Indonesian partner wants to go out to a restaurant, play Pokemon Go, or attend just about any social function, you have the vocabulary and phrases necessary to have a great time!
3- Access to Special Resources Dedicated to Romantic Indonesian Phrases
You now have access to IndonesianPod101’s specially-developed sections and tools to teach you love words, phrases, and cultural insights to help you find and attract your Indonesian soul mate. A personal tutor will assist you to master these brilliantly – remember to invite him/her to your wedding!
